RAINDAY FRIEND ARIANNE!

It's my very great and one of the best of friend that i have rainy birthday!! well we celebrated later than her original day, but better late than never right?? And we also had to bear with the schedules of our sophomore college friends who were all busy now with their own chosen career and work...it was not a planned celebration, arriane only tried to post and invite on our page group on fb, and there was no group message on phone, except of course with me since I was the one who helped her plan on the last minute..and I guess the lesser you plan the greater the memories would be :) and thats just what happened!!

First of course the celebrant arriane asked me if i am available for that day to accompany her to buy already cooked food,and some food that could be easily served...I was just regretting that i forgot to had some snap shots of everything we bought before we unwrapped, sliced and prepare all the foodies we decided to serve! We decided to made an italian theme hihi..although you wouldn't notice it was italian since we couldn't avoid incorporating asian bites..such as the rice and caldereta haha! So here since i dont have some sneak peek of what we've had that day..i would just enumerate it and i will let you picture it out on your own beautiful mind :)

So heres the list of Italian (only our version huh) foodies:
Panini Bread that Consist of- Authentic Ciabata bread and Baguette Bread both from well known French Baker (ooopsie it was a french bread so adds up with our italian theme...so that could be called 'french ala italia i asya') cool!
Panini Toppings- fresh tomatoes, letus, cucumber, melted cheese, tuna (this is for those who dont eat red meat just like me, but there was a ghost story happened that night because of my horrible hunger :( eeehhhh erase erase!) and ham (obviously for those who loves red meat,and since we wanted to cut cost, we chose ham than spam or bacon)
Pesto Pasta- hehe this one is really an Italian style, we managed to conceal the truth that we just bought  it and readily served. Since Arriane and i wanted our classmates to be impressed by us..we made a white lies haha (if that was even one) that we were the ones who cooked it..but really we only bought it from Pizza Hut hihi!
Fried Fish and Ginataang Fish- these two were the very pinoy style..asian food we also had that time. But it was already cook when we got home at arriane's place so really..what we prepared mostly..was our very own Panini Style :D
Grilled or Boiled?  Eggplant- haha this was the hilarious story why our college friends found out we were making up story about cooking all the food!!! Someone from them asked how did we cook the eggplant and arriane and i answered in unison..but with different answer haha..she said grilled and i said boiled haha. how crazy! and we spread on some pepper in it to become tasty.
Crabs- that they enjoyed except me and the celebrant, we couldn't just agree why it was so mabenta (trending) to most of the people specially here in philippines, i find it not really yummy, and need to struggle before you can it a few of its flesh..like really it was too expensive to get tired and get only a few bite of it hmmm! haha bitterness on the crabs?? I'm sorry for the crab lovers..nothing against you guys..just love them..i dont mind! really :D
Caldereta and Chicken wings- but we did not eat all of these only at that night,we also eat those the day after the celebration..yeah we stayed over night!
Champorado- obviously its more likely an asian theme than italian..i think we thought it was italian since our highlights focused only on Panini Bread...im telling you it's so yummy! up until now i'm drooling for more! and champorado is our choice of breakfast...partnered with...you bet.. PANINI!!!!!
Antonov and Wines - we had various flavors for antonov and they all tasted great! Especially the Blue and Yellow one..well personally it was my choice, but they found it weird that i love the taste of yellow antonov (which was a ginger one) it really was delightful for my tongue!

what put us into the brim of happiness wohoooo!

the only snapshots for the foodies..told you guys

the sophomore college friends above and Arianne (the celebrant) and I below :) with the PANINI MADNESS OF COURSE

So high and wasted!!!

and that's all with this rainy day for my friend arianne. Happy Birthday, you know you are one of the most especial friend i have. through thick and thin. thank you for always encouraging me and helping me every time i am in need! i wont name all that you have done for me..but i will always treasure it in my heart :) i wish you many more birthdays to come!!! Because admit in or not..you are one among all of us who always have a blast celebration!!! I just hope your parents wouldn't get fed up of us...but i know they already are haha! Have a wonderful night people..another day unfolded... Thank you God for another life. another hope. tomorrow it's all up again to you :)

QUEENIERICH REHMAN!

haha the name speaks itself!! -'Queenierich Rehman' the rhyme caught my eyes and ears when a friend giddily told me about how she reminded it of me and my, you know ex love hihi! you ask me who??? YOU BET! i wonder why it so easy for me to talk it out  now..maybe being completely happy makes everything looks like rainbow to me :) BTW she's our reigning MS. World Philippines 2012. Actually she's on her way to states to win the crown for our country. But as of I heard on news just today, she was over baggage and it caused her trip to get delayed. Dont worry pretty queenierich rehman..you'll make it to pageant AJA! Gunna be praying for you..adds up to my 'prayer partner' as what JP taught me hehe :D

MIND THE WED?

It's weird that the whole day, all I did was (aside from the chores and works) to read and browse an article about wedding plans. It's not that I am desperate now to get married or something. It's just that a lot of my reading list on my blogs right now, were talking about wedding. Added that I am also having a conversation with someone about it. Mind you-just a conversation..we're not planning here...we're just sharing our own beliefs and wants whenever we are on that same position already (do i sound so defensive now??hihi). I'm still young and i know i have lots of things that i need to do first..and want to do first as well. and i am in discovering and exploring the world (not that i can't do that if i got married) but doing it while you're not tying the knot yet??..it's just going to be different. But it doesn't mean that because I don't have any plans for the immediate future about marriage, I cant talk my thoughts out already..it's harmless right?

So anyway.. I had read this article from yahoo page in which you could fully read and browse more if you would visit the original site it was posted (getwed.com) and I asked myself...Is it enough to just plan and day dream with your boyfriend or girlfriend about wedding and then forget about it the day after..or should we consider minding the weddings and marriages seriously..especially if you and your partner is on the right point in time to do such?? So heres a quick peek for that...stop the wishy washy love teen talks about weddings..be more serious hahahaahah! I am not excited to plan my own..no i'm not, promise..I won't do it so soon or sooner or in the immediate future...but who knows....maybe soon hahaha wink!

Your first 10 steps on deciding to get wed

Cost

A major factor when considering marriage is cost. It’s no surprise that weddings aren’t cheap; even if you have a simple wedding you still need to pay basic wedding fees. But more often than not weddings incur costs for clothing, food, entertainment, rings, photographers… the list goes on! So it’s important to ensure you are both in the financial position to commit to such a huge outgoing which you may be paying back for years to come. Perhaps at this stage in your relationship your savings would be better spent on a home or a holiday to solidify your trust and commitment.

Religion

You need to take this into consideration if you and your partner are different religions and planning to get married in a sacred building connected to either of your religions. Certain religions require both bride and groom to be a practicing follower in order to be married. Or if you plan to marry in a Christian or Catholic Church then baptism is often required first. Religious weddings are sacred and should be respected and handled sensitively, so consider this element to avoid insult or disappointment.

Commitment & trust

This works both ways and is something you cannot avoid. You need to ask yourself if you trust your partner 100% and know they will support and care for you. But you also need to rest assured that you are wholly committed to them too. If there is any doubt in your mind that your partner does not trust you or is committed to you (or vice versa) then you need to reassess the wedding plans. This builds the foundations of any relationship so they must be squeaky clean before you commit for the long term.

Acceptance

Loving someone means accepting them for their flaws and adoring them warts and all. Without this you will always resent them for their annoyances which could create cracks in your relationships. If you truly love someone you will see past their imperfections (hopefully!) and love them for who they are. Either raise your opinions on their bad time keeping/inappropriate jokes/laziness or learn to live with them. You must also comprehend that you too will have annoying habits that drive your partner up the wall – nail polish in the fridge, underwear hanging on the shower rail, not to mention hormonal tantrums. You’re not perfect yourself lady! (But hopefully he loves you anyway).

Forgiveness

Sadly, no one is perfect and everybody has regrets. If either you or your partner has done something to hurt the other in the past then you must learn to forgive one another before marriage. If this just isn’t possible then you need to consider what effects this may have down the line. Will you always hold it against one another? Will it be a constant niggle in your marriage? Clean the slate now before you commit.

True love?

What are your true motives for wanting to marry your partner? If it’s wealth then you’re barking up the wrong tree. Marriage should be solely based on true love and adoration between two people. Anything else will not a happy marriage make. You also need to ask yourself if you are getting married because you want to or because you feel you should. Feeling pressure to tie the knot can stem from society, families or friends but you need to do what’s right for you and no one else. Or, your motives may lie in making your partner happy, when in reality you do not feel ready to say ‘I do’. The only reason you should marry someone is because you love them and want to spend your lives together.

Your future

Being open about your intentions for the future is vital if you are planning on committing yourself to someone for the rest of your life –after all, marriage doesn’t end after the first dance. Do you want kids? Do you want to travel? Emigrate? Change career? These are the sorts of things you need to discuss before your wedding as it would not be fair to surprise your partner with plans to leave the country for a gap year or to suddenly want to adopt orphaned children. You need to make sure that you both want the same things in life or it will be hard to act as a unit.

Pre-nuptial agreement

A prenuptial (aka ante-nuptial agreement or premarital agreement) aims to protect individual assets, so if you are entering a marriage with vastly different possessions it would make sense to at least take some legal advice. In a perfect world marriage would last forever, but of course that is not always the case and a large proportion of marriages do not stand the test of time. Decide if you want one before the wedding to clear up negotiation and potential conflict.

Mr & Mrs

Many couples are choosing to abandon tradition and either keep their original last names post-wedding or choose to have both! Technically you can choose whatever names you like, but just make sure you consider this prospect first. At the end of the day, some first and last names just aren’t the matches made in heaven that you and your partner are. William Williams, Robin Robinson, Danielle Daniels… you get the picture.

What’s mine is yours

Like a pre-nuptial agreement you need to discuss who owns what. Many couples choose to open a shared bank account but you need to discuss the rules and limitations of this before you start sharing your cash. Buying a pet, an antique or investing in shares needs to be done under agreement of who owns it or if you’ll split it 50/50.

But it’s not all about money and possessions –chores need dividing too! You both use the bathroom so you both should clean it (in an ideal world). So you need to consider what you are willing to share, which ideally should be everything (after all, you are sharing your lives and a home). Read more on getwed.com...

all information above about wedding grabbed from: Yahoo and Getwed page

BoyMeetsGirl

When the big rock hits me back last year june 2011..I was so devastated. thinking that I will never let anyone or anybody to hurt me that way again. It was a long haul of sadness and miseries. I was lost and mostly depressed. For almost 6 months I had experienced too much hatred in my heart...until i had a chance to talk again with this person who caused me all these..and that, the final closure begun. the final talks and goodbyes were given. and one day, i just woke up relieved that it all had happened. That, finishing all that we started as lovers in a very humble way could help me take away all my hatred in my heart, until it was easier for me to move on. Forgiveness was given as well. And becoming single had soon take place to be the most exciting opportunity that i personally believed God has fated me. I vowed to be the most out going (maybe a little exaggerated with this part) and most happy go lucky girl in town! :) And i guessed it happened, not totally the best in town, but the best to feel worthy again for myself. feel capable of my own. being more accountable of my own happiness. to be independent. i was braver than when i was in a relationship. all the insecurities had gone away. I am just a flying happy bee! And then i thought, 'it would be hard to give up again this singlehood and freedom that God let me possess now, and it will be harder for someone (a man to be precise) to easily linger around and get into me'. At first, it was easy. I could easily turned down offers of date, of courtship and the sort of that mushy ways of guys to get in me. Until this guy. A typical (jologs) and naturally clever guy. I almost forgot...fate would always be happy to tricked you in unexpected moments in your life, just like what happened to me. I was almost ready to embrace my single life for a long stretch....like for 3-5 years to be precise! And then there was this guy..who loosened my grip on my independent fun life. Unexpectedly, he got me interested in him. The first time we met, I could just feel that there's something between us. He never made anything so obvious, for me to think he might like me..But in a very strange way, I knew it. There was an invisible signal between us. He couldn't even look straight in my eyes whenever i tried to make a conversation with him. He played to be a snobbish sporty man. Well that's how i described him the first time we encountered each other on a sports :) He was good at it, and i was impressed. He also taught me some basics..but one thing i also noticed was, he had a hard time keeping close to me. He seemed too reserved within my presence..and i just couldn't help but think.. 'i think i got him bad hihi'! I didn't know why i kept on thinking he was into me, and worse..why i was too concerned to get my guts confirmed. He was just irresistible, he made me laughed too much with his own cracked jokes. he also was just too simple to even care of his looks, that made me feel more interested to get to know him and him to reciprocate the feelings. But i never had in mind that we would get far from that... far from, just be more closer as friends just like how close he was with our circle and common friends. but in a blink of an eye....everything had drastically changed. we even got closer than what's expected. we talked about non sense every day, every minute, every seconds. he always sing a song for me. he manage to keep my heart giddy and stomach crampy with his non stop jokes..even at times he could be so corny that it annoys me already! we have some dates, we talk about harmless things..until such time, we became more serious..we started talking about our passions, our past, our share of adversities in ones life, our family..and our dreams..and what person we have become and wanted to become in the coming years. Until without any words to noticed...we have fallen in love...not that we've planned. but more of, we have developed in as time went by. we were fond of each others company. we even have our simple misunderstandings and differences on how we view life..but life cant be just a smooth sailing all the time. it needs rough roads, big waves to attest how strong and far we can go..having each other by our sides. Life could never be easy..he has encountered his own dilemmas whether to pursue me,love me and choose me over a girl he used to love that's trying to win him back. and me struggling with my own confusion whether to believe and wait in vain for someone i also used to love over this guy who showed me how colorful the life can be. we were both struggling to make our own choices, we braved to let each other decide for what we think is best for us.. It was him who braved to choose first,,and I was just so touched to know he had chosen me..and here i was..having a hard time to choose over him and over someone overseas...(lol for that) but God knows best..fate knows best..time knows if its about time..and so i cleared my mind and made a choice...and I choose to be with him.....well the question is...who is who??? Well i could humbly say..its him the typical simple jologs guy who got me so bad :) maybe if you would ask him about how our story goes for him?? i just knew it would be different..but all that I am sure of..is the here and now..who we have and what we've got :) I'm just so happy to let myself loosen up..and to guard down a little bit to let this new relationship blossom! I know it wont be easy..i wont cover up our issues and frustrations right now...especially now that my parents weren't ready yet for me to have a boyfriend..but i know he would fight for me.

And now, i braved to blog about this story just after we had talked on phone..he has this great idea that made me have goosebumps for the reason..he was suggesting a thing that I had read from a christian book who authored by Joshua Harris without knowing anything about it. He was aware I was reading such book. But he didn't know what was in stored in there. I was surprised he opened up that we read verses from a bible everyday..and to give our share of beliefs and opinion about it. he also asked me to read something, and reflect on it..and that he wants me to share it with him. He also wanted to make our relationship to be purely Holy and Godly. Of course it caught me off guard. I was not a religious person, although i do believe in God. I don't even read a bible and i don't know even one verse from the bible! he asked me if i ever read a bible, and for the first time in my life..i felt ashamed that i don't. It was overwhelming to have a kind of boyfriend like him...It was all new to me!!! But i remembered myself praying once...that Lord would give me a kind of guy who will devote his love for me in the name of Big guy up there..and I just can't believe how fast he is giving this answers to me!!! I didn't know how to respond, I even stammered when I tried..so I just simply said 'yes we'll do that, that's a great idea'. and he even asked me if we could follow certain part of the book I am currently reading (boy meets girl) that I had mentioned to him once to be applied in our relationship.....and all that I could do is to.. swallowed hard..and answered 'yes its fine with me. its going to be rough but i'll take the challenge'. I wont be in details about what it is..maybe you should find it (the one we were planning about to do) out yourself by reading this book (boymeetsgirl by joshuaharris) it doesn't need to be followed rules by rules or word for word..it was written to be a guide, to encourage goodness, godliness and holiness towards our partner..our relationship..this could help to enlighten our hearts and have a whole new perspective towards romance.

I don't really know how it will work for us. But I know its going to bring out the best in me, with the help of someone my heart truly loves right now. Actually we have lots of meaningful conversations and plans (the easy to grasp reality plans..not just those cliche wish washy plans) for our immediate future. I just think its too early to brag all of them. And maybe my admitting he is now my "boyfriend" is enough to overwhelm you guys..so I will give you time to take it all in hehe...Nonetheless I am Happy :) and ohh...I am ecstatic to meet his fellowship in their ministry, he promised and was planning to bring me there once in the coming days. Idk why it was taking too long..but i think it also has to do with him being active in the ministry..i was curious but I just let it off..I couldn't brave to speculate things when it involves God himself..as long as he stay Good and Honest..then we will be fine :)

So yeah here it goes...my new saga had begun..it can be also a perfect gift for our second monthsarry hiihi! was it too much to divulge. Sorry to get you shocked..but we're 2 months in love ahhihihi! Im crazy in love again..as what matatanda (oldies) would say..;tsk tsk mga kabataan talaga walang kadala dala!' haha.. But I am confident with this one..it's different from my past relationships, he's by far the most unique among the guys i used to love..ask me why..but I just knew it by heart :)

‎"You need to know that I'm in love with you. And I want you to choose me instead of him." - Jacob Black, Eclipse

ooopsiieeeeee! relate much! :D ciao darlings

KING'S STUDENT CAMPAIGN

Hi I am king venezuela. 17 years old and a freshmen IT student, authorized by my fellow freshmen to run as our new student representatives. Its my pleasure to know that our fellow students entrusted me to some how, with all of my capabilities, make our community a better place. I am humbled to realized that they chose me maybe because, they see a good person in me to handle such responsibilities. they see friendliness in me that will result to receive good and harmonious relationship and cooperation from our fellow students. maybe they also see leadership that coincides power to influence in a positive way our fellow students.

to tell you the truth, this opportunity that is given to me stirred up my endeavor to make our little world (here in the university) a better place. Sure our school is a beautiful like paradise place, but we can do something more and new to improve this. I may not hand you now a hard copy of plans to enlist all the possible vision i may have for our department, since it takes a lot of time and effort to foreseen such. But I will do my best to make our community a more sophisticated and a comfortable place to study in.

the slogan for my campaign is 'freshmen aims refreshment'. and as a representative of first year college student I will bring out new energy and new enthusiasm  to our student council. I may not be the best candidate for this position, I am only 17 years old, and I may lack experience, but it is compensated by my strong will to approach new things and welcome this a challenge. I am not striving for authority, if you will choose other student, I will warmly wish him all the success to improve our students for the better. But if you will empower me with your trust I will do all the possible things to meet our common goals and ideals. If you empower me, We will start from solving our local concerns and will make our school a better place.

Thank you for your very kind attention.

'My so emotional and humbled campaign speech made for my little brothuh'! hehe! And i think somehow it brought magic because he won as their 'First Year Student Representative'. And i was like 'oh i have contributed something so let's cheers to that! Proud sissy! Proud self hihi! G'night :)'

FUN BOWLING DATE LOL

Believe it or not. But it was not an intended double date haha! It just happened that there was the four of us who gamed to play bowling at that time. I thought there were another group of couple and some related cousins who would join us. And fortunately and unfortunately....there were only... I just said it earlier lol! But nonetheless we had fun. I was not sure early on if I could make it to a bowling plan that was set up by this couple (ailed and wendell) since I was with my mother and doing some sort of stuff for her personal collection part time business. But then, my part on helping my mom was pretty much finished faster than what's expected...I came to decide,okay! I will go. And so  I contacted Japepot if he still wanted to come. And of course, as if he had a choice right?hehe! But before we went to Ailed's office to celebrate her despedida party at work, he asked me to come in megamall to meet his old very bestfriend (a girl actually..see that?) lol. Well anyway she was nice, but I can't remember her name..I think its Erica, I wish i am right because she's too nice to be forgotten!! REALLY!!!

I collage na lang the photos, so to save lots of space and effort hehe! and that, we made the plan up, it was a blast of funny momentos and bloopers hehe!. that is what going to happen when all of you were a newbie hehe! JP and I won versus the sweethearts yay!

MY COLLAGE :).

There is nothing that could replace our precious memories when we were young (not that im too old already). and keeping them to refresh everything that you had done, and every people you had met, and every stories behind those pictures, whether it be the most unforgettable, the most pleasant, or be it the most embarrassing. Still I will not wish anything to be removed.I will not ask God or any saints to erase them away from me. Because it made me who I am right now. And I am proud to say that.... I have had the most treasured moments I could always look back for without despair but only satisfaction...that these all had happen :)

The three Venezuela siblings :) my elder sister was the one who has curly hair, and my kuya (eldest brother who is now in God's loving hand) was the one wearing the police cap, and with that pigil smile little guy :) and i was that cute little one who noticeably having a different hair dress on most pictures. believe me even the one i didn't collage and the ones i hadn't uploaded on fb.!! I think it explains my fond of accessories and hair-clips when I grew up! My youngest brother was unfortunately not here, he mostly have a solo shots taken when he was a baby. So It was hard to find a complete picture of the four of us. But nonetheless we love each other <3 and ooops I almost forgot to mention my papa who was carrying me up there on the right corner of my collage. He looked a little young in there compared to now hihi!

My most beloved lola and lolo!!! I love them to bits. And i know that they love me too so much. I think most of grand parent seems to be more affectionate to their apos (grandchildren) than their own offspring haha! My Granpar is a proof! They are the best among the rest of your lolo and lola. I die fighting for that belief!!!!! They baby sitted all the four of us. And they never complained even a bit. They love us and took care of us like nobody else could does. I salute them for being there beside me in my success and adversities in life. They are my life :) (too emo electric statement again).

My Highschool Clash!!haha look how dainty to dirty my high school experiences were. from a simple uniformed young girl, to a beauty queen, to becoming a majorette, to becoming a CAT officer hahaha! that is what you called ASTEEEEEEEEEEGGGGGGG...... to bits hihhihihii!

Of course there are more!!! especially my high school years. I am only waiting for my mareng hannah to get  their scanner fix and she will voila...scan all of our thousand photos. And nope I am no kiddo! I mean it for real! yey excitement :D

Please have a wonderful day everyone.. because I'm having one!

30 THINGS TO START DOING FOR YOURSELF

Our previous article, 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself, was well received by most of our readers, but several of you suggested that we follow it up with a list of things to start doing.  In one reader’s words, “I would love to see you revisit each of these 30 principles, but instead of presenting us with a ‘to-don’t’ list, present us with a ‘to-do’ list that we all can start working on today, together.”  Some folks, such as readers Danny Head and Satori Agape, actually took it one step further and emailed us their own revised ‘to-do’ versions of the list.

So I sat down last night with our original article and the two reader’s revisions as a guide, and a couple hours later finalized a new list of 30 things; which ended up being, I think, a perfect complement to the original.

Here it is, a positive ‘to-do’ list for the upcoming year – 30 things to start doing for yourself:

1. Start spending time with the right people. – These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways.  They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.
2. Start facing your problems head on. – It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them.  Problems will not disappear unless you take action.  Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done.  It’s all about taking baby steps in the right direction, inch by inch.  These inches count, they add up to yards and miles in the long run.
3. Start being honest with yourself about everything. – Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed.  Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become.  Be honest with every aspect of your life, always.  Because you are the one person you can forever count on.  Search your soul, for the truth, so that you truly know who you are.  Once you do, you’ll have a better understanding of where you are now and how you got here, and you’ll be better equipped to identify where you want to go and how to get there.  Read The Road Less Traveled.
4. Start making your own happiness a priority. – Your needs matter.  If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself.  Remember, it IS possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you.  And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.
5. Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly. – Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are.  Be yourself.  Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else.  Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms.  Above all, be true to YOU, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.
6. Start noticing and living in the present. – Right now is a miracle.  Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you.  Right now is life.  So stop thinking about how great things will be in the future.  Stop dwelling on what did or didn’t happen in the past.  Learn to be in the ‘here and now’ and experience life as it’s happening.  Appreciate the world for the beauty that it holds, right now.
7. Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you. – Mistakes are okay; they’re the stepping stones of progress.  If you’re not failing from time to time, you’re not trying hard enough and you’re not learning.  Take risks, stumble, fall, and then get up and try again.  Appreciate that you are pushing yourself, learning, growing and improving.  Significant achievements are almost invariably realized at the end of a long road of failures.  One of the ‘mistakes’ you fear might just be the link to your greatest achievement yet.
8. Start being more polite to yourself. – If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?  The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.  You must love who you are or no one else will.
9. Start enjoying the things you already have. – The problem with many of us is that we think we’ll be happy when we reach a certain level in life – a level we see others operating at – your boss with her corner office, that friend of a friend who owns a mansion on the beach, etc.  Unfortunately, it takes awhile before you get there, and when you get there you’ll likely have a new destination in mind.  You’ll end up spending your whole life working toward something new without ever stopping to enjoy the things you have now.  So take a quiet moment every morning when you first awake to appreciate where you are and what you already have.
10. Start creating your own happiness. – If you are waiting for someone else to make you happy, you’re missing out.  Smile because you can.  Choose happiness.  Be the change you want to see in the world.  Be happy with who you are now, and let your positivity inspire your journey into tomorrow.  Happiness is often found when and where you decide to seek it.  If you look for happiness within the opportunities you have, you will eventually find it.  But if you constantly look for something else, unfortunately, you’ll find that too.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.
11. Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance. – In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance.  You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work.  Most of the time you just have to go for it!  And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be.  Either you succeed or you learn something.  Win-Win.
12. Start believing that you’re ready for the next step. – You are ready!  Think about it.  You have everything you need right now to take the next small, realistic step forward.  So embrace the opportunities that come your way, and accept the challenges – they’re gifts that will help you to grow.
13. Start entering new relationships for the right reasons. – Enter new relationships with dependable, honest people who reflect the person you are and the person you want to be.  Choose friends you are proud to know, people you admire, who show you love and respect – people who reciprocate your kindness and commitment.  And pay attention to what people do, because a person’s actions are much more important than their words or how others represent them.
14. Start giving new people you meet a chance. – It sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every friend you’ve ever made.  People and priorities change.  As some relationships fade others will grow.  Appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work.  Trust your judgment.  Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory.  Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.
15. Start competing against an earlier version of yourself. – Be inspired by others, appreciate others, learn from others, but know that competing against them is a waste of time.  You are in competition with one person and one person only – yourself.  You are competing to be the best you can be.  Aim to break your own personal records.
16. Start cheering for other people’s victories. – Start noticing what you like about others and tell them.  Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places.  So be happy for those who are making progress.  Cheer for their victories.  Be thankful for their blessings, openly.  What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.
17. Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations. – When things are hard, and you feel down, take a few deep breaths and look for the silver lining – the small glimmers of hope.  Remind yourself that you can and will grow stronger from these hard times.  And remain conscious of your blessings and victories – all the things in your life that are right.  Focus on what you have, not on what you haven’t.
18. Start forgiving yourself and others. – We’ve all been hurt by our own decisions and by others.  And while the pain of these experiences is normal, sometimes it lingers for too long.  We relive the pain over and over and have a hard time letting go.  Forgiveness is the remedy.  It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened.  It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.
19. Start helping those around you. – Care about people.  Guide them if you know a better way.  The more you help others, the more they will want to help you.  Love and kindness begets love and kindness.  And so on and so forth.
20. Start listening to your own inner voice. – If it helps, discuss your ideas with those closest to you, but give yourself enough room to follow your own intuition.  Be true to yourself.  Say what you need to say.  Do what you know in your heart is right.
21. Start being attentive to your stress level and take short breaks.– Slow down.  Breathe.  Give yourself permission to pause, regroup and move forward with clarity and purpose.  When you’re at your busiest, a brief recess can rejuvenate your mind and increase your productivity.  These short breaks will help you regain your sanity and reflect on your recent actions so you can be sure they’re in line with your goals.
22. Start noticing the beauty of small moments. – Instead of waiting for the big things to happen – marriage, kids, big promotion, winning the lottery – find happiness in the small things that happen every day.  Little things like having a quiet cup of coffee in the early morning, or the delicious taste and smell of a homemade meal, or the pleasure of sharing something you enjoy with someone else, or holding hands with your partner.  Noticing these small pleasures on a daily basis makes a big difference in the quality of your life.
23. Start accepting things when they are less than perfect. – Remember, ‘perfect’ is the enemy of ‘good.’  One of the biggest challenges for people who want to improve themselves and improve the world is learning to accept things as they are.  Sometimes it’s better to accept and appreciate the world as it is, and people as they are, rather than to trying to make everything and everyone conform to an impossible ideal.  No, you shouldn’t accept a life of mediocrity, but learn to love and value things when they are less than perfect.
24. Start working toward your goals every single day. – Remember, the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.  Whatever it is you dream about, start taking small, logical steps every day to make it happen.  Get out there and DO something!  The harder you work the luckier you will become.  While many of us decide at some point during the course of our lives that we want to answer our calling, only an astute few of us actually work on it.  By ‘working on it,’ I mean consistently devoting oneself to the end result.  Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
25. Start being more open about how you feel. – If you’re hurting, give yourself the necessary space and time to hurt, but be open about it.  Talk to those closest to you.  Tell them the truth about how you feel.  Let them listen.  The simple act of getting things off your chest and into the open is your first step toward feeling good again.
26. Start taking full accountability for your own life. – Own your choices and mistakes, and be willing to take the necessary steps to improve upon them.  Either you take accountability for your life or someone else will.  And when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams instead of a pioneer of your own.  You are the only one who can directly control the outcome of your life.  And no, it won’t always be easy.  Every person has a stack of obstacles in front of them.  But you must take accountability for your situation and overcome these obstacles.  Choosing not to is choosing a lifetime of mere existence.
27. Start actively nurturing your most important relationships. – Bring real, honest joy into your life and the lives of those you love by simply telling them how much they mean to you on a regular basis.  You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people.  Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty.  Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of.
28. Start concentrating on the things you can control. – You can’t change everything, but you can always change something.  Wasting your time, talent and emotional energy on things that are beyond your control is a recipe for frustration, misery and stagnation.  Invest your energy in the things you can control, and act on them now.
29. Start focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes. – The mind must believe it CAN do something before it is capable of actually doing it.  The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful.  Listen to your self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones.  Regardless of how a situation seems, focus on what you DO WANT to happen, and then take the next positive step forward.  No, you can’t control everything that happens to you, but you can control how you react to things.  Everyone’s life has positive and negative aspects – whether or not you’re happy and successful in the long run depends greatly on which aspects you focus on.  Read The How of Happiness.
30. Start noticing how wealthy you are right now. – Henry David Thoreau once said, “Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.”  Even when times are tough, it’s always important to keep things in perspective.  You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.  You didn’t go to sleep outside.  You had a choice of what clothes to wear this morning.  You hardly broke a sweat today.  You didn’t spend a minute in fear.  You have access to clean drinking water.  You have access to medical care.  You have access to the Internet.  You can read.  Some might say you are incredibly wealthy, so remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.

informations grabbed from : marc and angel hack life

50 QUESTIONS THAT WILL FREE YOUR MIND

These questions have no right or wrong answers.

Because sometimes asking the right questions is the answer.

1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire.  They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend.  The criticism is distasteful and unjustified.  What do you do?
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do?  What’s holding you back?
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
20. Do you push the elevator button more than once?  Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?
22. Why are you, you?
23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?
25. What are you most grateful for?
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
27. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
28. Has your greatest fear ever come true?
29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset?  Does it really matter now?
30. What is your happiest childhood memory?  What makes it so special?
31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
32. If not now, then when?
33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?
38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
48. What do you love?  Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?
49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday?  What about the day before that?  Or the day before that?
50. Decisions are being made right now.  The question is:  Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?

all information grabbed from : marc and angel hack life